What are some harsh realities of life?

 

1. Looks matter. A lot. Being a handsome man, is one of the most “unfair advantage” you could ever have. Better pay. More options in terms of relationships. Easier to make friends. More sex. I could go on and on…Luckily, unhandsome men can become handsome in a matter of 2–3 months. Get leaner, dress better (fitting clothes, wear black), start lifting weights and train in the fighting arts.
2. Money matters. A lot. Yes, all by itself money won’t make you happy. But you’d be a fool to say that having lots of money WON’T measurably increase your quality of life. You could get out of a dead-end job. You could be the master of your own time. You could retire your mom.
3. Working hard and “hustling 24/7” is CRIMINALLY overrated and toxic. 20% of your efforts contribute to 80% of your success in any given field. Be it business, good grades in school/college, building muscle and losing fat, dating, relationships…Everywhere. Which means, that there is just a handful of behaviours/actions/customers/partners (20%) that disproportionally contribute to your success and happiness. Hard work, and especially “hustling” is greatly overrated. You need to work hard at the right stuff, the 20% of factors that contribute to 80% of your success. That’s how you get real world success.
4. At our core….We’re all like crack addicts - Our brain is wired in a way, that we’re NEVER, ever satisfied. No matter what domain of life, we always want more and more.More money. More experiences. More friends. Problem is: There’s a point of diminishing returns, where more X doesn’t lead to more happiness.
5. We’re all deluding ourselves about who’s in the driver’s seat of our behaviour - Do you want to know how to spot a dumb person almost 100% of the time? They say: “I’m super rational.” Haha. Sure. No, you’re not. We’re all very irrational and almost always decide with our emotions first and then use our rationality to justify our choices.
6. People lie all the time - But their behaviour can’t. Everybody says: “This year I’m going to get into shape.” But then they get drunk and high on the weekend and scarf down 3 burritos and skip the gym because “hangover”. Never take people for their word - Always look at their actions. People’s behaviour tell the real story, while they tell the story that sounds good to others.
7. 90% of self-help, fitness and business advice is complete and utter bullshit that doesn’t work in the “Real World”. Most advice in books, articles, YT vids and even paid courses and seminars, sounds really good and helpful in theory, but always fails to deliver in the real world. But it get’s worse…Some of the advice is even dangerous. Most popular diets, for example, will make you gain fat back! Most self-help advice will only make you feel good for a couple of weeks, instead of teaching you how to change your habits. An then you’re back to square one, feeling even worse about yourself for “failing”.